The Guy I Was Interested In Wasn't A Guy

Okay, let's get real. We've all been there, right? Crushing hard. Feeling those butterflies.

But what happens when the person you're crushing on isn't exactly... who you thought they were?

My Little Secret (Not So Secret Anymore)

I met Jamie online. Super funny. Great taste in movies. We chatted for weeks.

I was picturing someone tall, maybe a bit nerdy, definitely cute. We made plans to finally meet for coffee. The anticipation was killing me!

Then came the bomb. A casual mention about "her" weekend plans. Her? Excuse me?

The Great Gender Reveal

My brain did a record scratch. A full-on, dramatic movie moment. Everything I thought I knew was wrong.

Jamie, my witty, charming crush, was a woman. Not a dude. A WOMAN.

Now, I'm not saying this is a bad thing. But it definitely threw me for a loop. My carefully constructed fantasy shattered. Like a dropped phone screen.

I mean, I consider myself an ally. Love is love, right? But this wasn't about political correctness. This was about *me* being completely oblivious.

Panic Mode Activated

My first reaction? Complete and utter panic. Should I cancel the coffee date? Pretend I knew all along? Play it cool?

I opted for awkward honesty. I blurted something out about being surprised and confused. Smooth, I know.

Jamie was super understanding, thankfully. She explained she just hadn't felt the need to clarify. We'd been talking about everything BUT our personal lives.

Coffee Happened (Awkwardly)

The coffee date was… interesting. Definitely different than I imagined. The romantic potential? Gone. Poof.

We ended up having a great conversation. About movies, books, and the general weirdness of online dating. We even laughed about my epic misunderstanding.

I realized Jamie was a cool person, regardless of gender. Maybe not a romantic partner, but a good friend.

Unpopular Opinion Alert!

Here's where things get controversial. And this is just *my* opinion, okay?

I think... maybe... intentional ambiguity online is a bit of a catfish move. Not like, a malicious catfish. But still a little misleading.

If you're actively avoiding gender pronouns and leading people to assume one thing, is that entirely fair? Probably not.

Look, I get it. People want to be seen for who they are, not just their gender. But attraction is a factor in dating. And gender usually plays a role.

It's like ordering a pizza and getting a delicious salad. You're not mad it's delicious! But you REALLY wanted pizza.

The Moral of the Story (Maybe)

So, what did I learn from this whole experience? Be clearer online. Assume less. And maybe, just maybe, check a profile picture more closely.

And most importantly, it’s okay to admit you were totally wrong about someone. As long as you learn from it.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go update my dating profile to specifically state: "Looking for a GUY (biological male)." Just to be safe.